Ups and downs are surely a part of life for each and every one of us, just that for some, their worst nightmare is a reality, and they have to live with it. But miracles can happen when people get over their nightmare to fulfill their dreams because of their will to achieve their dreams, which is much stronger than their nightmares. One such instance is of Jake Coates and Emily Collettes.
What one loves in childhood stays in the heart forever. Mary Jo Putney, a best-selling American author, once said, and her words fit perfectly with the story of Jake and Emmy. The story started when Jake and Emmy were 11 years old, the pre-teen stage of life, and both went to the same primary school. Jake was from Monmouth, Wales, and Emmy from Luxington, Wiltshire, and it took no time for the two to become best friends instantly. However, what you won’t believe is how this school friendship was soon to turn their lives around.
It’s strange how life holds the power to play with us when everything appears to be perfect. Jake and Emmy’s lives are true examples of such incidents. Read on to know how. We all had our first crush, our first love, and sweet kiddish memories that last a lifetime. However, a few are blessed to find their soulmates in this tender age.
Emmy shared her memories in an interview, stating, “My schoolgirl crush on Jake started almost 20 years ago when we were just 11 years old. We quickly became childhood sweethearts, and at 13, he told me that I was his lobster,” referring to Phoebe’s famous phrase for her friends Ross and Rachel from the most lovable TV series “Friends.”
The life’s unexpected happenings were about to change their lives in the least expected ways. Their fairy tale began when Jake and Emmy turned 16. “When we were 16, we finally sought the courage to fully admit our feelings for each other, and we dated for three years,” she recalled her young love.
They enjoyed their childhood friendship for six years, and now they looked perfectly together, experiencing first love sweetness. But as you are aware, they are not like ordinary couples, and so they’ll be making a life-changing decision soon.
Remember your own days of being a teenager. Every girl wishes for something this special to happen, but Emmy was a lucky one. “You were my everything, and if you still can put up with me, I will marry you one day,” were Jake’s heartwarming words in a short letter he wrote for Emmy when the two were in their late teens. Jake and Emmy loved each other, and how the young couple’s love was blooming is clear from Jake’s note. But soon, everything changed because of what they decided.
Nothing lasts forever, and so Jake and Emmy’s high school life was soon to get over, and the completion of their schooling proved to be an end to their relationship as they both were supposed to go to different universities.
While many people give long-distance relationships a try in such cases when they are sharing a strong bond with their partners, Jake and Emmy made a choice of parting ways and moving further in their lives. However, rarely things go according to our plans, and the same was about to happen with the two.
Although Jake and Emmy decided to walk in different directions, the childhood sweethearts always managed to stay in touch. Unlike the close relationship they shared in high school, which was never there again, both used to have updates about each other and kept their friendship always in the picture. Even after the distances, eventually things started to change, and their effects on their lives were soon to be seen.
Jake was now a doctor and living in Sydney, Australia, close to his workplace, while Emmy was working as a teacher in London. Not similar to their get-togethers during holidays, this time somehow everything was planning to bring them together for a whole different reason, and they both were unaware of it completely. And when you’ll know what happened next, the biggest obstacle that was waiting for them, you might feel dejected. Go ahead and read how Jake and Emmy’s lives were about to change forever.
For over 10 years, Jake and Emmy were able to continue living their lives according to their own will and as per their plans, which they were completely satisfied with. Though they never felt it too much, they always had something missing, but were too busy with their daily routines that they never felt enough occupied with the thoughts of something missing. But years later, time was about to bring them face to face unexpectedly.
In the year 2015, after all these years, finally Emmy and Jake came together again, and this time it wasn’t just their ordinary holiday meet. They realized the fact how they were looking for each other all this time, like they were meant to be together, and the best thing happened lately. But they realized the fact that they got along perfectly not just as friends, but as partners for life. This wasn’t all for them, as within six months, the couple was about to face the biggest shock of their life.
Emmy was in London, and Jake was in Sydney, yet both were certain that they’d make it work, going beyond all distances, as they completed each other in every way. They were connected through their conversations on FaceTime and even used to travel every now and then, just a pair absolutely in love, ready to give up on anything to stay together.
And that’s what life is all about, right? It’s more about sticking next to your loved ones. We would love to know your views about it. While 10,000 miles seemed nothing to this couple, as their relationship was getting stronger every day, the worst nightmare was close to coming true.
They used to talk about the future now and realized how they both wanted to spend life with each other, and Jake knew Emmy completes him in every way. Unaware that the future was about to leave them both devastated, Jake had the most special moment prepared for Emmy. By March 2016, Jake knew that Emmy completed him in every way, so he was ready to take their relationship to the next step, as he didn’t want to lose this girl right by his side. This time, he had everything planned for a proposal.
He had pictured the wonderful moment already in his mind, and he was just preparing for the best trip to happen. But when life brought them to a dead end, the vow to marry Emmy that he mentioned in the note in high school was now about to come true, and no time would have been better than now. So, he planned a trip to the Philippines, where he’ll ask Emmy, “Will you marry me?” on a cliff with a scenic background of fireworks, an ideal proposal.
Sadly, before the trip could take place, everything went horribly wrong. Before the couple could take off for the tropics, Emmy was in Sydney to meet Jake, as she usually does. She was supposed to return to London on the next day; hence, it was the last day of their time together until their next trip to the Philippines. She was spending time with her childhood love next to the beach, lying in the sunset.
They looked like the rest of the couples for the last time, as Emmy’s request was about to destroy all their plans. “We were just two people in love lying on a beach in Sydney without a care in the world.
Who would have known what was to happen next?” Jake remembered the Sunday afternoon suddenly turned from a chilled-out, laid-back afternoon to a shocking moment when Emmy asked Jake to give her a neck massage, which Jake kindly accepted as it was doing something nice for the woman of his dreams, the one he wanted to spend his life with. But what was going to happen before he could massage her neck was least expected.
“We were sat in a restaurant on a Sunday afternoon, a really sunny, beautiful day, and I just put my hands around her neck from behind, and I knew straight away something was wrong. My blood ran cold,” said Jake of the day that ruined everything. He was scared as hell, but he didn’t want to worry Emmy, but he knew this could be something very disturbing for both of them.
What he noticed was enough to scare Jake, as he was a doctor himself. “You don’t want to worry someone, so I didn’t shout, ‘Oh my God, Emmy, why didn’t you tell me about this’ or anything,” Jake further added. “I just said very calmly that she needed to have it checked out really quickly.” He decided to handle the situation wisely without panicking Emmy and himself. Emmy didn’t get any signs of Jake’s thoughts so far; she thought it was due to her hectic schedule that she was feeling tired, but this incident was just the visible smoke; the actual fire was yet to be identified.
“I told her to make an appointment with her GP as soon as she got home, and that’s what happened,” he tells in an interview. “I was trying to push her to go to the doctors Monday when Emmy returned to London. She made an appointment for the same day and went for a checkup. There wasn’t an instant assurance about anything from the doctors as they wanted to get a few tests done; however, their expressions were indicating that something was not at all right. ‘I was desperate not to miss our holiday,’ Emmy reminisces.
The reports came a day before they were to leave for the tropics where Jake wanted to propose to the woman of his dreams. Unfortunately, instead of packing their bags, they were waiting for the doctor to tell them what the reports have to say. This time, Jake was with Emmy; he left everything and flew back to England to be with Emmy. “I was rushed to A&E with chest pains. We were waiting there for nearly 12 hours before a doctor told me the cancer’s stage four. It was incurable and had spread to my spine, lungs, liver, and bones.
” Emmy was one of the youngest people to have this rare medullary thyroid cancer, with only 300 cases in the UK in the last 12 years. Yet, Emmy and Jake were not ready to give up. Emmy’s case was now transferred to Royal Marston Hospital, to whom the couple has always been thankful. Doctors said after her neck biopsy and other tests that Emmy was now on a drug that could possibly slow down cancer from spreading. On the basis of prognosis, there were twenty percent chances that she could live for around five years.
But Jake and Emmy were more than confident and were looking forward to so much to come on the way. “My symptoms first started two years ago. I thought it was irritable bowel syndrome. I left it and left it, as you do. I didn’t want to be a hypochondriac. They told me I was stressed. I went to the doctor two or three times but just kept getting told it was IBS and everything was normal.
It was nothing to worry about. I would have diarrhea and constipation, but I wasn’t really being taken seriously by doctors. I had a really bad period,” she further remembered. “I was on a school trip, and I had to go to A&E. I had blood tests, but they said everything was normal. But I left it. I reached a point where I was almost embarrassed to keep telling doctors I had something wrong with me.
I just felt really silly.” She had been complaining about not feeling great for a while, but no one had ever felt her neck, Jake shared his experience with disappointment. “It was only six months since the couple got back together, and the misfortune was on them now. Though the reports stated Emmy didn’t have much time left, the couple was not convinced that this was it and a disease is stronger than their love, and therefore, they wanted to make something new of their own, a paradise for two.”
They were young, they were perfect together, and they were optimistic. As soon as Emmy was discharged from the hospital, she had something going on in her mind that she and Jake decided together, and both were ready to start their journey to all new adventures soon. Emmy never seemed low; she was always full of energy and with her flawless bright smile, and how she was dealing with her routine checkups and chemo was more inspiring. At the ending phase of Emmy’s life, she was ready to go on her new way with Jake.
“Believe it or not, I am happier than ever. Love truly is the best drug, and I’ve been totally smothered in it,” Emmy used to tell her family. She was informed that if her cancer was diagnosed before, she could have made a complete recovery from it, but now it was incurable. Emmy and her family and Jake were dealing with that fact. Emmy and Jake decided to make a trip, a special trip for a special cause.
Even though the couple had the hardest time going on, they never lost hope and started moving ahead faster than before. Emmy and Jake were ready for an adventure of a lifetime, and Emmy was setting an example. Instead of being bedridden and feeling lethargic, she was up for a cycling journey of 2,000 kilometers (1,242 miles) across Europe, from London to Copenhagen, for a heart-melting cause (the reason isn’t mentioned in the text).
Emmy’s life completely changed with Jake’s question. She was thrilled with the idea of marrying her childhood crush, and the day was about to fill her remaining life with joy. Emmy’s mother always told her that Jake is the one for her, and that happened to be true when the cutest couple decided to share their lives together. They knew each other since childhood, and dated in the teenage years, and were now getting married in their late twenties. They were an ideal match and honestly the ones for each other.
Emmy was in charge of all the wedding plans, and looking forward to her big day made her days better than ever. People wasted so many years of their life being miserable. You could be hit by a bus tomorrow; life is so short, and we are determined to enjoy it. We are optimistic, looking forward to the future, and looking forward to getting married,” said Emmy.
In September 2016, the loving couple took their vows, and everyone was in tears. They were unaware of their fate, just living their present to the fullest. When the couple came to know after their diagnosis that Emmy wouldn’t be able to sunbathe again, they managed to plan a getaway for themselves, a five-day holiday trip to Dubai. The biggest surprise that awaited the couple after their trip was the option of surrogacy.
Though it wasn’t to last for too long, smile, love, and be kind were the words Emmy believed strongly in. These words kept her going beyond all the barriers. The couple was looking for surrogacy as an option, and a few women showed interest in being the surrogate mother, willing to help Emmy and Jake, but that didn’t work out for one or other reason each time.
The couple was widely known due to their rare circumstances and their wonderful, adventurous decisions. On top of it, Emmy was writing children’s books, while Jake was awarded the ITV Fundraiser of the Year at the Pride of Britain Awards for his charity work and raising awareness regarding cancer. Emmy was working on her blog, in which she shared her fight against cancer and her extraordinary role that she played with her husband in fundraising.
Little did she know that it was going to introduce her to a wonderful person. The incredible, life-changing event took place when the smitten couple was contacted by their schoolmate Liz Begg, who was then 32 years old and lived with her son nearby. “I didn’t really know them at school, but when Emmy started sharing her story on her blog, I knew I wanted to help,” Liz says. She added, “Emmy was just something else, an incredible person, and so positive. The best way to describe her is gracious.
” The thought of having their baby was now the greatest reason that kept the couple moving forward every new day. They liked Liz, and they were immediately planning to get everything done as quickly as possible, as their hopes of being parents were taking them further. Even on the darkest of times, the reproductive specialists took nine samples of viable embryos to keep their possibilities up to the mark.
“We sat around a table and watched three pregnancy tests turn positive one after the other,” Jake recalled. It was after three months, and they were all overjoyed, as this was good news after a long, hectic period. Liz shares her experience, “To experience that moment with Emmy and see the hope in her eyes was incredible. That was the most perfect day we ever spent together,” Jack added. “To say it was emotional is an understatement. I know I can speak for Emmy when I say I think neither of us had ever felt an excitement or feeling like it. It was utterly incredible.”
However, the good times for them were now over. Less than an hour after doing these tests, Emmy could barely keep her eyes open. “The tank was well and truly empty. Truth be told, Emmy never fully woke up,” said Jake. Emmy died on June 16, 2017, at the age of 31, after an 18-month-long struggle with a rare thyroid cancer. She left the world. Though the story didn’t end here, a week before she died, Emmy woke up for a few hours, and it was like the light suddenly came back on.
“I can’t describe it,” Jake devastatingly recalled. “She said, ‘Do you think I’m dying?’ It was just the worst feeling of my life, having to say yes and having to see her for the first time in my life scared and crying.” The widower was living with one thought: She died blissfully in the knowledge that we were going to have our baby. Yet, Jake felt utterly lost and empty without her. “She was my north, my south, my east, my west, the reason I wanted to wake up every morning and be a better person,” Jake expresses his sorrow.
But Jake’s only hope was about to be shattered too. The baby was the only ray of light in Jake’s life after his childhood love left him. But a disheartening news came when Liz informed him that the pregnancy was unsuccessful, and hereafter, the volunteer surrogate made two more attempts that were unsuccessful before Jake finally gave up on that option.
“After two failed attempts and more consideration than any of you could ever imagine, I’ve decided to step back from the surrogacy journey and delay it indefinitely,” he said. “Despite all that happened, Jake learned the lesson of never giving up from Emmy, and so he was determined to go on. ‘She has had to endure physical as well as emotional turmoil over the last 18 months because of our choices, more than she ever deserved or asked for, and I know she would do it all over again a thousand times and more.
I cannot thank her enough for all that she has done and continues to do for me and all of Emmy’s family and friends, but more than that, I cannot thank her enough for what she gave Emmy. For she gave Emmy and I hope, allowed us to dream about our future ‘Coates’ baby, and it filled us with so much positivity and kept us both going when the days were darkest,’ thank you Liz. You are actually an angel, and I will always believe that Emmy has the first baby up with her in heaven,” Jake said.
And what he did next for his wonderful woman is worth knowing. Jake Coates was never over the grief of losing his best partner, his better half, “my co-captain on my bike, my best friend, my lobster, my wife, and truly my hero. There isn’t a moment that passes when I don’t miss her,” Jake expresses his sorrow. “I can’t look to the passenger seat while driving the car without the deepest ache spreading across my chest.” After being through the most lonely days of his life, Jake’s life was to take a twist.
Emmy’s parents Susie and David, her sister Sophie, brother-in-law Matt, and niece Mills, and all of Emmy’s friends have been the greatest support to me throughout all of this, and I genuinely couldn’t have done any of it or made any decisions without them. They are my family and friends, and I will do all I can to look after them and be there for them in the future,” Jake tells about Emmy’s supportive family. The heartfelt story of Emmy and Jake was publicized in Europe, making the two of them a sensation. However, the untimely death of Emmy left everyone disheartened.
After Emmy bid goodbye to this world, Jake’s life made headlines again for two different reasons that many followers either didn’t agree with or supported Jake with their new kindest words. We’ll tell you about both happenings in Jake’s life that were surprising yet inspiring. Early this year, Jake made a decision to run ten marathons and was determined to finish it in just two months. He was doing this for the love of his life and to raise funds for the Royal Marston Hospital that looked after his princess.
But what came as a surprise was when he traveled to Iceland for his marathon, he was joined by Jenna Selby, an event planner. Jake found love again in his life, eight months after Emmy died. Jenna, an event planner, and her son surprisingly made an important place in Jake’s life in a few months. He said, “No one was more surprised than me.” They both brought the sunshine back into my life and given me the nudge I so desperately needed to start living life to the full again.” Jenna added, “The last thing on both our minds is a new relationship, but life happens.” The couple looked happy together, and this was exactly what Jake needed.
Jake finished his tenth marathon in July, as he had aimed for. He paid tribute to his late wife on finishing his marathon, as he knew this was his wife’s wish for him. “As ever, I am never on my own doing these challenges,” he said.
“Emmy is still leading me, motivating me, and comforting me.” He ended by saying, “Life is incredibly short and can change in the blink of an eye, so I won’t let happiness pass me by.” Now, we wish Jake the best in life, as he has faced more than enough so far and deserves the utmost happiness in his life.