A casual family dinner conversation ended in a heated argument as all three of Dora’s kids revealed that they do not want to have biological children. Dora is upset and can’t understand why her husband took the children’s side.
The issue of family planning is often a personal one, with varying views on when and how to start a family. Nowadays, people can have babies naturally or through unconventional methods such as surrogacy or adoption.
Dora and her husband, Tom, welcomed their three kids, Peter, 17, Janine, 15, and TJ, 13, naturally, and although the kids are still in their teens, the doting mom already dreams about being a grandmother.
During one family dinner, the topic of grandchildren came up, and as Dora casually expressed her hopes to one day have a large brood of grandkids, her youngest child, TJ, interrupted:
“Honestly, mom, I don’t want kids at all.”
“Ditto,” responded her middle child, Janine, who continued, “and if I do decide to have kids later, I am definitely adopting.”
Dora’s face immediately turned red, and before she could speak her mind, her eldest child, Peter, echoed his sister’s sentiments but added that he would leave it up to his future wife to decide. Upset by her kids, Dora responded:
“Why would you do that? We had you naturally and we want biological grandchildren.”
Janine reasoned that there were so many kids who needed homes, and they didn’t need to bring more children to the world, while TJ added his concerns about climate change.
Still, Dora remained adamant that her children should have biological kids so that she could be a grandmother. Her anger peaked when Tom joined in the conversation, supporting his children’s views on the matter. He said:
“Honey, you’d still be a grandmother even if they adopt, besides, it’s their choice. They don’t owe us anything.”
Tom’s comment angered Dora, and she began yelling about how unfair it was that she couldn’t be a real grandmother. Tom, trying to diffuse the situation, reminded her that the kids were still young and could change their opinions later.
He even added that since they were so young, the family could always revisit the conversation in a few years so there was no use putting pressure on them just yet.
How do you feel about this family’s situation? Is Dora justified for feeling this way, or is she wrong for trying to enforce her views on her kids? If this story piqued your interest, read this one about a girl who chose her adoptive parents over her birth parents.