As mamas entrusted with the lives of other tiny humans, it can often feel like you have to wear a brave face and don a Wonder Woman costume day in and day out. After all, if WE’RE falling apart, what kind of qualifications do we have to raise another living thing?
It’s a common struggle, but that facade is impossible to maintain.
Sometimes we need people. Friends. Familiar Faces. Comrades. We need women who will come alongside us in battle—with Chick-fil-A in one hand and Fabuloso in the other, to feed our undernourished bellies and clean our WAY-overdue-for-maid-services houses while we simply grab a shoulder to cry on.
Because in the thick of the mess and the stress, the hurt and the lonely, sometimes the most comforting piece of assurance we can have is the knowledge that we are not alone.
On the ‘Northern Colorado Moms Blog’ Facebook page, one brave woman expressed exactly that sentiment through an emotional personal account of her own motherhood struggle. In a viral post that has now been shared over 100,000 times, she has struck a chord with mamas across America who need to be encouraged in their own tough seasons.
Read the post in full below, and be sure to SHARE it with the mothers in your life who need to be reminded that sometimes the strongest thing you can do is admit that you can’t do it alone:
“This is what friendship looks like.
I am currently walking through the hardest season of my life, and as Mama’s we feel like we’ve always gotta put on our big girl pants and just muscle through. Never let ‘em see you sweat, right? Oh girl…if there’s one thing this season has taught me, it’s that that sort of lie is terribly dangerous to believe.
I needed my people today. I thought I just needed to call them up and cry about what was happening, and then while on the phone, my sweet friend asked me such an important question. She asked me to just say what I needed and wanted most.
I told her that I didn’t want to be alone.
Her response :: “I’m on my way.”
I started in with all of the reasons she couldn’t and shouldn’t come… “My house is a disaster.” “I don’t want to burden you.” “It’s such a long drive.”
Her response :: “Sister, I don’t care about any of that. You said you don’t want to be alone, so I’m coming.”
Not only did she make the trek from Greeley to Fort Collins, but she picked up another sweet friend along the way. They picked up lunch, they walked into my house, gave me the biggest hugs, and asked “What can we do?”
My disaster of a house? They helped me clean it, and assured me it wasn’t that bad. They let me cry, they made me laugh, we listened to music, and most importantly…
I. Wasn’t. Alone.
Mama, if you’re going through a rough season…know that you don’t have to do it by yourself. You don’t even have to know what you need — just start by asking to not be alone.
I know there is someone in your life who will say to you “I’m on my way,” if only you’d ask.
And Mama if you have a friend who you know is going through it, just offer to come and be there with her. Actually don’t offer…just tell her you’re coming.
Because I guarantee she wants that more than anything, and she’s having a hard time being able to say it.
Praying for all of you walking the tough roads right now…whatever that may look like for you, know that you’re not walking it alone! We love you, Mama!”