After being estranged from my father for 27 years due to my NM (Narcissistic Mother), I finally reconnected with him last year. In a week’s time, I will be embarking on a journey to visit him, despite the fact that he lives 8000 miles away.

He reassured me several times that he would take care of booking a hotel for my stay. I have been asking him about the hotel arrangements, and he assured me that there is no rush as there are plenty of options available even at the last minute. However, he recently suggested that I stay with him, along with his wife and daughters.

I feel uneasy about staying at his house, primarily because his wife has expressed concerns that I am returning solely to gain access to his retirement funds. Just today, his daughter sent me two hotel links and asked about my budget for accommodation.

When I spoke to my father, he suggested that I choose one of the two options and book it as soon as possible. He never explicitly mentioned that he would handle the hotel reservation as he previously indicated. This discrepancy has left me feeling unsure about what to make of the situation.

Considering that I have been away from my father’s life for 27 years and that I am making a considerable effort to visit him, leaving my children behind, it is disheartening that he is not following through on his commitment to book the hotel as he initially promised. I’m left questioning if it’s even worth it for me to make this trip.

Perhaps my expectations are too high, but given that he was not involved in my upbringing after I turned nine, I believe the least he could do is honor his word and fulfill the responsibility of arranging the hotel as he initially stated. I’m genuinely upset by this turn of events and wondering if I am overreacting.