Inspirational
My Husband Wants to have It Almost Every Minute And it’s Affecting My Job
I am a young mother of two. We got married in 2017 and we have lived together peacefully since then. I actually met him through my mom. My mom and his mom used to be coworkers at one government hospital. I had just graduated from university and I was waiting for my call up letter so I would go for service.
Being the first child of my parents, my mom was always on my neck to get married even when it was one of the least things on my mind then. She has been pressuring me ever since I was in the university but since I was still in school, she did it in a cool manner so that I didn’t get to complain so much. But as soon as I graduated, it was as if the pressure tripled. She would always ask me if I had anyone in my life and if I said no, she would ask why I didn’t.
This was my struggle with her for a long time until she began to matchmake me with her colleagues’ kids. She tried several times but they didn’t work out. It’s either the men were not well mannered, or they were controlling or our views didn’t align.
I was picky. I had my standards and I was not ready to settle for less regardless of the pressure my mom was placing on me or how she would react if they didn’t work out. I had plans and no one was going to ruin it for me.
I was already giving up on the incessant matchmaking with clueless men when my husband came along. He was jovial, caring and paid so much attention to details. It didn’t take time for us to click. We got talking and with each passing day, our chemistry grew stronger. From friends, we became companions and partners. I was glad I settled for him.
Life has been good to us. However, even after about 5 years of marriage, my husband still demands sex like we just got married. He wants to have sex with me every minute of the day and I don’t just understand this. We have two kids already yet he doesn’t stop. As much as I love him and can’t even get enough of him, this character of his is beginning to affect various aspects of my life, especially my career.
I have a very demanding job and most times, I have tasks to do at home to turn into my team lead the following day. I come back from work around 4pm every day and I get everything in place but when I settle down to finish up some tasks from work, my husband wouldn’t let me be. The only time he rarely disturbs me is when he is tired from the day’s work or when I am asleep.
This is honestly affecting me and I find it very difficult to cope with. I have spoken with him on several occasions about this but nothing seems to change. We have kids and sometimes he does some things that kids obviously shouldn’t see us doing.
Correcting him and trying to make him see reasons why he needs to stop acting this way has been futile and it annoys me. Apart from this attitude of his, he is a great man and I appreciate every moment of the day we spend together.
I haven’t complained to his mom or his siblings about it because I believe that there are things we can handle on our own but this is getting out of hand. No matter how I try to make things fall in place, they don’t and I am tired. I need to put food on our table and he hardly understands that. Please what can I do? I am tired of managing.
Cecil
August 11, 2023 at 8:58 pm
Play him psychologically,be the one to start demanding it,for almost 2weeks without a break,that will reverse everything and ultimately minimize the abnormal behavior he practices.
Aliyu Usman
August 11, 2023 at 9:35 pm
Just keep managing nd still talking to him one day he will understand nd him too will get tired very soon, nd don’t think otherwise ooo pls protect your marriage my sister
Adeniji Christopher
August 12, 2023 at 3:24 am
I can quickly understand that you are a hard working woman and doing a lot to support your lovely family.
I see your husband is found of your body and in addition he has a very high libido, it isn’t his fault as he didn’t make himself.
However plead with him to both agree on a timetable for sex which you both should keep up with strictly.
Again you can have a room where you alone hold the key to. You stay in there lock up the door so as to do your vital works properly. He has a problem of setting eyes on you and your body.
Goodlucky opara
August 12, 2023 at 4:00 am
Let him get another wife, so that you can rest and focus on your job.
Prince
August 12, 2023 at 5:06 am
Invite your spiritual director to talk to him. But remember that if you continue to denisl him sex, one day he will get it outside and that will be the end of the marriage. Both of you need a psychologist and spiritual director.
Joseph James
August 12, 2023 at 5:57 am
Among all you tried doing to stop your husband, you did not pray. Effective fervent prayer will stop him.
Ismail Aliyu
August 12, 2023 at 6:15 am
Both of you should visit a professional for relationship counseling in places. If the issue persist, then report him to his family members who can talk sense to him and will adjust his behavior positively.
Kadiri Kamilu alaba
August 12, 2023 at 6:17 am
Yeah, you will try to get him during your weekend, keep him in your bed room, give him until he tired, and do the same thing to next day Sunday, don’t allow him to come out give him until till tired, you will see say through out the week he will run
Amkhalil
August 12, 2023 at 6:34 am
Together with your husband try and make contact with sex health expert and discuss the issue with them and seek their input on the matter.
Jony
August 12, 2023 at 6:49 am
Do what ua heart tells u.our pieces of advice may not be pragmatic but your own opinion is the only breakthrough.