My wife is the kind of woman who tells her family everything that happens in our marriage — literally everything. I’ve tried so many times to explain to her that there should be boundaries, that some things are meant to stay between husband and wife, but she never listens. She tells her mother about the times we argue, when we have bad sex, when I can’t give her money, or even when she suspects that I might have another woman.
After a while, I got tired. I started distancing myself emotionally just to protect my peace. Whenever I suspected she had complained about me to her mother, I would ignore her mom’s calls. I respect my father-in-law a lot, but unfortunately, he doesn’t have much say in their home. His wife runs the show, so talking to him about anything feels like talking to a wall.
One night, something strange happened — my wife didn’t come home. We hadn’t fought or even argued that day. I called her phone several times until she finally answered late in the night and said, “I’m sleeping at my parents’ house. I came here to visit them, but it got late so I decided to stay.”
Something about her tone didn’t sound right. I had a gut feeling she was lying, so I called her father to confirm. He said, “She hasn’t been here. If she’s on her way, I don’t know.”
I was shocked. I called my wife again, but she didn’t answer. I tried calling her father several more times, but this time he didn’t pick up either. Early the next morning, I called my mother-in-law, and she told me, “Yes, she was here last night. She decided to sleep over because she was too tired to go home.”
I asked her to hand the phone to my wife so I could speak with her directly. She said my wife was still sleeping and would call me when she woke up. But that call never came. Hours later, my wife finally returned home — and of course, it turned into an argument.
I told her straight up that I didn’t believe her story. In the middle of our fight, she called her mother and put her on loudspeaker. Her mother said angrily, “If you’re tired of my daughter, then just divorce her. I’m tired of settling your problems all the time. Adwoa, didn’t I tell you to marry that man abroad? You refused to listen. Now look at what you’re going through.”
That statement hit me hard. I was done trying. Since that day, our marriage has never been the same. I decided to take her mother’s advice — to walk away.
Now, my wife is begging me not to end the marriage because of what her mother said. Her mother even apologized and claimed she was only angry when she made those comments. She also admitted she lied about the “man abroad.” But to me, none of that matters anymore. The only thing I want to know — the only truth that matters — is where my wife really spent that night.
Until today, no one has given me a clear answer. I’ve moved out of our house and I’m currently staying with a friend. I’ve tried in many ways to get the truth out of them, but it’s like they’re all keeping the same secret.
If you were in my shoes, what would you have done? Would you stay and keep hoping for the truth — or walk away for your own peace?
