Being single led me on a very desperate path. I tried nearly everything from dating apps to setups to find a date but to no avail. Eventually, I came to terms with the fact that I might never find the right guy. That was when I decided to join a local social club to kill time and keep myself busy. Things were going well and for a moment, I forgot that I was single like a dollar bill. We usually organized community projects like cleanups and visiting children’s homes and the elderly.
During one of our social work, we visited a rehab facility where I met an old friend. I hadn’t seen him in years since moving out of my parents’ home and didn’t know what happened to him so I was shocked to see him at rehab.
“Hi, Grace.” He replied with a warm smile.
He looked good and it was hard to believe that he was an addict. At first, I thought he worked at the facility but he informed me that he was there as a patient.
“I fell into depression after failing to graduate and went a dark path.” He explained.
“Well, you look like you’re doing well.”
“I am. Actually, I’m almost done with my rehab. I think I’ll be out in two weeks.”
“Can I take you out on a date when I’m out?”
I laughed. It felt weird for someone in rehab to ask me out but I didn’t have the luxury to be choosy.
“Okay.” I finally replied and gave him my number.
Sure enough, he called after two weeks telling me that he was out of rehab and wanted to see me. We planned a date for the coming weekend. I wasn’t too excited about it since I never really liked the guy in a romantic way. The only reason I agreed to go was that I hadn’t been on a date in a while. Plus, I wanted to catch up with him. After all, he was my neighbour and childhood friend.
Phillip, on the other hand, was quite excited about it. He kept asking me what I wanted to do, where I wanted to go, what I’d wear. He even suggested that I wear a short dress or skirt since he wanted to see my legs.
“You have amazing legs. You should show them off.” He said via text.
I’m not going to lie, his flirting had me blushing a little bit and I actually listened to his suggestions. I wore a short brown dress paired with black heels. He came to pick me and we headed to the restaurant.
When we got there, the restaurant was a bit full but after some time people started leaving. By the time we got our food, the restaurant was half empty and we had a lot of privacy. The dinner went well. We caught up on lost time and reminisced on our childhood days.
“I remember you were very naughty.” He said to me. “In fact, all the boys in the estate swore they would sleep with you.”
The comment made me feel uncomfortable but I laughed it off. He continued to make inappropriate comments about me. At some point, he got up and came to sit next to me. He then put his arm around me and pulled me in closer which made things more awkward. I should have been happy to be in a man’s arms and to get such kind of attention but I couldn’t bring myself to feel anything for Phillip. To me, he was like a big brother.
“So, why were you in rehab?” I asked trying to change the subject.
“I already told you, I was addicted to weed.”
“Ooh, I keep forgetting.” I lied.
There was a moment of silence and I hoped he finally decided to leave me alone but I was very wrong.
“Let me show you something,” he said.
I thought he wanted to show me a video of his recovery journey but I was in for the biggest shock of my life. He opened a hidden folder on his phone which had countless videos. He then opened the first one and it was an inappropriate video of two people doing it
“Do you watch inappropriate video ?” he asked while the video played.
I shook my head since I could barely open my mouth from shock. I thought he would stop playing the videos after I told him that I don’t watch them but he continued.
“This one is my favourite.” He said opening another one.
At this point, he started moving his hand up and down my arm. I tried to move but he held me back each time. Finally, I managed to say something.
“You know you’re in public. You can’t watch inappropriate videos.”
He didn’t seem to care. Besides, nobody could really know what was going on. From a different point of view, we looked like a lovey dovey couple who couldn’t keep their hands off each other.
He proceeded to show me the inappropriate videos for about an hour describing his favourite scenes and what he was into. He even offered to send me some but I refused. I had to endure this for the rest of the date until I suggested that we leave.
He probably thought that I meant we go to his place but I had an exit plan. I texted my friend to call me in about 10 minutes.
“Say that you’re coming to pick me up because one of our friends was having an emergency,” I told him.
He called me almost immediately after we got to the parking lot and I asked Phillip to drop me at a petrol station where I had already booked an Uber. Before he realized what was happening, I entered the Uber and went to my place. That was probably the worst date I had ever been on and it made me reconsider whether I really wanted to date. Since that day, I haven’t been on another date and might not be in a long time.