In the past generations, a woman was said to be a virgin when she bled during her first intimacy at the time of first night. The girl’s family the next day would take the bedsheet or any of her dress that has the blot of blood and show it to the boy’s family, and that was actually a proud occasion for the bride’s family. They had handed over their daughter as a virgin. But does that prove anything anymore in today’s world and life style? Well, read on to find out more.
What Does It Mean To Be A Virgin?
The most basic definition of virginity is never having engaged in intimacy. However, the exact definition of virginity is open to plenty of speculation. Just as people define “intimacy” differently, people define what it means to be a virgin differently as well.
Some people might say that you’re no longer a virgin, once your [email protected] has been penetrated by a man. Others might say you are a virgin, since your hymen hasn’t been broken. It’s up to you to decide not only what you think about virginity, but also what sort of s£xual activity you feel ready for.
What Is A Hymen?
The hymen is the stuff of legend and lore in many cultures, the treasured prize a woman gives her husband on their wedding night. It is a thin and stretchy layer of tissue located below the vaginal opening. The word “hymen” comes from the Greek word for “membrane”.
Some women are born without much of a hymen. Other womens’ hymens cover a large portion of the vaginal opening. It all depends on the woman.
Hymens can come in different shapes and forms. The most common hymen in young women is shaped like a half moon. This shape allows menstrual blood to flow out of the [email protected] The hymen may partially cover the vaginal opening, or in rare cases, it may entirely block the opening, which may require surgery.
What Is The Purpose Of The Hymen?
Many people might be surprised to learn that the hymen has no proven medical or physiological purpose. For some women, there’s practically no tissue at all. For others, it’s a membrane covering the vaginal opening.
Although it doesn’t seem to have a specific function, it’s thought that hymen tissue remains as a vestige of vaginal development. Embryologically, it tended to keep germs and dirt out of the [email protected]
Apart From Intimacy, What Other Things Can Break The Hymen?
The hymen can stretch or even tear during many intense physical activities like horseriding, swimming, riding bicycles, climbing trees or jungle gyms, playing on obstacle courses, gymnastics, dancing, etc.
The use of tampons and inserting something in your privates (fingers, s£x toys, etc) may also stretch the hymen. So, by the time you engage in intimacy for the first time, your hymen might already be thin enough for it to not be affected at all.
So, Will Every Woman Bleed The First Time?
Some cultures believe it’s possible to detect whether someone has had intimacy by checking to see if their hymen is intact or if they bleed when they consummate their marriage.
Well, there is no evidence that intimacy changes the hymen. It’s also true that not everyone will bleed the first time they have intimacy. Some hymens are more elastic than others, so having intimacy for the first time might not rupture it. However, you can potentially break the hymen. When a hymen does break, it doesn’t usually cause pain, and it won’t always bleed.
Most of the time with first vaginal intercourse, the hymen stretches to make a bigger opening and there is no bleeding. If the opening is small or the vaginal opening not well lubricated at the time of intimacy, a small almost invisible tear in the hymen occurs and causes bleeding.
In conclusion, the shape or size of the hymen is different for every person, and not everyone will bleed, feel pain, or rupture their hymen when they have intimacy for the first time. So, having a stretched or torn hymen does not necessarily mean a woman has lost her virginity. A woman may not know her hymen has stretched or torn, because it does not always cause pain or noticeable bleeding.