For many women, the correlation between intimacy and snoring is one of those annoying facts of life. Many wonder why a man can fall asleep so quickly after intimacy, no matter how passionate the encounter might be.
Some of you might interpret his unabashed sleepiness as an emotional slight, and may even compel you to think you are nothing more than the object of his sexual release. However, I want to encourage you to see his sleepiness in a different light.
So, Why Do Men Fall Asleep After Intimacy?
There are several reasons why men can feel so tired and sleepy after intimacy, even if the encounter was particularly passionate and energizing, and none of them have to do with your personality or performance in the bedroom.
1. Environmental Factors
Intimacy typically takes place in the bedroom, and often in the evening, with the lights off. Our brains associate the bedroom with bedtime and it’s only natural to feel sleepy when put in this setting.
However, you can adjust the environmental factors by engaging in intimacy with lights on, or in the afternoon, so that it’s more likely you can engage in a bit of post-coital conversation.
2. Prolactin Discharge
For men, the body produces a cocktail of brain chemicals immediately after an orgasm, and one of these hormones is called Prolactin. This hormone is why it can take so long before a guy gets in the mood again (the “refractory period”).
Prolactin also inhibits dopamine, the brain chemical that helps you stay awake. Research indicates that the body produces four times as much prolactin after intimacy, thereby creating more significant side effects (i.e., fatigue).
3. Increased Oxytocin Levels
Oxytocin and vasopressin, two other chemicals released during orgasm, are also associated with sleep. Their release frequently accompanies that of melatonin, the primary hormone that regulates our body clocks. Oxytocin is also thought to reduce stress levels. So, the three of these hormones combined lead to relaxation and sleepiness.
Does It Happen To Only Men?
It’s not just men. Women fall asleep after intimacy too. However, women’s bodies react differently. For them, the sensations during an orgasm are a stimulus. So, they could be more willing to go for a second round.
How Can You Prevent Your Man From Falling Asleep After Intimacy?
1. Try having intimacy before breakfast/dinner.
2. Avoid the traditional at-the-end-of-a-tiring-day intimacy.
3. If you wish to talk with your husband and share important feelings with him after intimacy, but he doesn’t feel like talking, then try to speak first about anything you know he’s interested in. After you get him involved, start your conversation of interest.
So, if your partner falls asleep after intimacy don’t take it as an insult. Their body is producing post-orgasm chemicals that can lead to tiredness and relaxation.
Both oxytocin and prolactin will be released after intimacy, and are the leading factors for the tiredness men experience after intimacy.